Get Out of “Stuck”

Stuck in the Mud

Are you in a ‘stuck’ mode?  Just like a car stuck in the mud, you keep pressing the gas in the hopes that the car will magically sprout wings and fly up and out of the soft dirt.

But what happens? The tires keep spinning and the car doesn’t move.  You know that there must be another way but maybe you’ll just keep trying one more time.  So you step on the gas and get in deeper; and then you wonder why you are stuck.

Sometimes you are stuck in a relationship.

You know that the person is not really good for you or makes you feel depressed but you still keep calling and spending time together.

Sometimes it is a job.

You really don’t like the people you work with or what you do.  You rationalize that it is a paycheck, so you have to stay put.  Then you end up feel anxious all the time and never appreciated.

Sometimes it’s your dreams.

You have an idea for a new career or moving to a different city, or simply spending more time doing what you do well.  What is stopping you from making your dreams a reality?

Here are three easy steps to

help you get out of stuck

  1. Tell yourself the truth about why you are stuck. Be honest and tell yourself why you stay in a place where the tires are spinning, and you don’t feel like you are ever making any forward progress.
  2. Ask yourself what you really WANT. Whether it involves your relationships, work, or dreams for the future, take time to think about what you really want – the who/what/when/where/why are all good questions to ask.
  3. Make a plan of action to move in the direction of success. You noticed I left out following the ‘how’ in the step above. That is because HOW deserves its own step.  This would be a good time to look in your ‘Empowering Yourself Toolbox’ that I am developing for you.  (See previous blogs).  Use the tools, and come up with a plan of action – one step at a time – and get going.

Stop wasting time spinning your wheels.  Get started moving towards what you really want.

Then you can change your clothes; they’re really muddy.

~ Loretta

Photo credit: jimmy thomas

Strengthen Your Core for the Rest of 2015!

Happy “Rest-of-2015!”  How are the ‘Resolutions’ you made in January going?  Still keeping them? If so, good for you!  And if you slipped a little – it’s time for new ones.  

We know we should work our body, both inside and out, so we can look good in that bikini!  But how about examining your emotional core and giving it a cleaning?  How about defusing some of those negative thoughts and beliefs that get in your way?

You know those thoughts – those recordings that lurk in your head and act as triggers for your behavior, causing roadblocks. Here are a few examples of negative beliefs that I often hear clients mention:

I’m really uncoordinated
I’m not creative
I’m not good enough
I can’t do  ____- because people will think I’m dumb
No one really listens to my ideas

You get the picture.  Something comes up for you to try, to be challenged by, or that you want to do – but then these core beliefs are triggered and act like a big guard standing in the way of you and your happiness.

They don’t have to stop you.  You can work on diffusing these thoughts so that you simply don’t listen to them anymore.

You can allow yourself to think different thoughts – more positive and encouraging thoughts that will help you reach your goals.

Think about it – if you consider yourself ‘unlucky,’ you start noticing anything and everything ‘unlucky’ that happens to you.  You become overly conscious of outcomes that you expect. The core belief gets confirmed.

You can change that.  At some point you begin to realize you do have control over your thinking – just as you have control over scheduling your next Pilates lesson or what you will have for lunch.

Think of how good you will feel when that limiting belief is quieted!  It will change the way you view yourself and will empower you in ways you didn’t think possible.

Now that’s a good “Rest-of-2015”’s Resolution!

~ Loretta