Your mission, Jim,

should you choose to accept it, is…

You recognize that quote. It’s the opening scene to MISSION: IMPOSSIBLE. Of course, Jim always accepts the assignment; and we get to enjoy the adventure.

Sometimes in life you do have choices. You can choose – even volunteer – for the mission.  But sometimes the mission is simply forced on you, and then you have to navigate the challenges.


Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about TRANSITIONS.  Often it’s as simple as going off to college or wanting to change jobs. Other times it’s finding yourself an empty nester, being ‘let go’ from a job, or becoming single after years of partnership. Or maybe you are moving from one place to another, just lost someone you love, or realize that you must RETIRE.

These transitions – or CHANGES – all force you to ask yourself similar questions:

Who am I NOW?

How will I spend my spare time?

Which people will I surround myself with?

How am I going to find fulfillment?

I‘ve heard lots of the answers.  Many people think that they will be fine because they are comfortable financially.  And yet there are many ‘rich’ people who are very unhappy and lost. Others look forward to the change and they will simply “take it as it comes.” Maybe…, for a little while.

Each transition happens to a different you. It’s important to take a good look at who you are NOW. Then you can explore what you really want and make a plan for how to get there.

Coaching You Through the Transition

As a coach, I don’t give you the plan.  Only you know what will make you enthused about getting up in the morning. But coaching will help you decide what you really want and what’s been stopping you from getting there. Once you are armed with that information, you’ll sharpen your focus and be ready for what lies ahead.

CHANGE – Some people can handle it just fine, and others, ‘not so much.’ Whether you are Jim (or Janet) and find that your

  • Relationship is changing;
  • Lifestyle is changing;
  • Attitude is changing;
  • Job/place to live is changing;
  • You’re getting married/Having a baby/Becoming empty nester; or
  • Yikes! You’re going to Retire (!)

having a coach makes a big difference as you navigate the new environment. The “Transition Mission” is yours – and you have to choose to accept it.  Let me help you make it an exciting





I have a lawyer friend whose new hire is a Millennial (born 1980-2000).  He says the guy comes in a little late most days, immediately gets a cup of coffee and stops at his door to sip and ask, “So what’s on for today?” If any of you know lawyers, you know this is …, um…, frowned upon.

As of March 2015, there are more Millennials than GenXers or Baby Boomers. Millennials are the technology generation. They know how to ‘crowd source’ and fundraise and launch ideas and ad campaigns.  Big business has funded a lot of research to try to figure out how to attract this key demographic.  And TIC TAC thinks it has come up with the solution.

Millennials admit what motivates them to make a purchase is Anxiety and Empowerment. (Perhaps their world of instant gratification and heavy student loans could be the culprit?) So TIC TAC created a mint that changes flavors as it melts on the tongue! Yes, you read that correctly, and it comes in flavors such as ‘cherry to cola’ and ‘peach to lemonade’.  Can’t you just feel those student-loan worries fading away?

Personally the whole idea of this mint raises my anxiety.  I would be constantly wondering

  • When will the flavor change?
  • What if I bite into the mint?
  • Suppose I like the peach but not the lemonade flavor?

I tell you all this because I think it’s important to realize that 15-35 year olds are being bombarded on a daily basis with ads that feed into their need for empowerment but at the same time heighten their stress.  

If you are (or know) a Millennial, I suggest that you consider this.  A mint, whether it is one flavor or a combination, will not increase feelings of being in control – although maybe shaking the Tic Tac  box will!

Establish a relationship with someone you can trust, a friend/confidant/Coach who can help you focus, and identify what you really want and develop a strategy for getting ther

Here are 4 tips for Millenials (or anyone) to Lower Anxiety and Increase Feelings of Empowerment.

  1. Be smart with your purchasing power. Be aware that you are an advertising target.
  2. Explore what makes you anxious and why – knowledge is power.
  3. Think about what makes you feel in control and how you can get more of that in your life.
  4. Seek help from a professional when you feel stuck. An Empowerment Coach is unbiased and can help you focus on the getting what you want out of life. In my practice we talk about priorities and lifestyle. We find ways to build on your own empowerment tools in order to decrease anxiety.

Bonus Tip

  1. Buy some mints if it makes you happy. I recommend the peach to lemonade.

~ Loretta

Strengthen Your Core for the Rest of 2015!

Happy “Rest-of-2015!”  How are the ‘Resolutions’ you made in January going?  Still keeping them? If so, good for you!  And if you slipped a little – it’s time for new ones.  

We know we should work our body, both inside and out, so we can look good in that bikini!  But how about examining your emotional core and giving it a cleaning?  How about defusing some of those negative thoughts and beliefs that get in your way?

You know those thoughts – those recordings that lurk in your head and act as triggers for your behavior, causing roadblocks. Here are a few examples of negative beliefs that I often hear clients mention:

I’m really uncoordinated
I’m not creative
I’m not good enough
I can’t do  ____- because people will think I’m dumb
No one really listens to my ideas

You get the picture.  Something comes up for you to try, to be challenged by, or that you want to do – but then these core beliefs are triggered and act like a big guard standing in the way of you and your happiness.

They don’t have to stop you.  You can work on diffusing these thoughts so that you simply don’t listen to them anymore.

You can allow yourself to think different thoughts – more positive and encouraging thoughts that will help you reach your goals.

Think about it – if you consider yourself ‘unlucky,’ you start noticing anything and everything ‘unlucky’ that happens to you.  You become overly conscious of outcomes that you expect. The core belief gets confirmed.

You can change that.  At some point you begin to realize you do have control over your thinking – just as you have control over scheduling your next Pilates lesson or what you will have for lunch.

Think of how good you will feel when that limiting belief is quieted!  It will change the way you view yourself and will empower you in ways you didn’t think possible.

Now that’s a good “Rest-of-2015”’s Resolution!

~ Loretta