Decision Making and the 6 Basic Human Needs

6 Basic Human Needs

How do you make major decisions?  Flip a coin? Use a Dartboard? Let the answer depend on whether you see three red cars (!) on the way to work?

One thing that will help you in making choices is to understand yourself better. Realizing what you really need in situations gives you support in your decisions..

Here is a list from best-selling author Tony Robbins of the Six Basic Human Needs that we all have.  Regardless of the situation, how you value these needs will help direct the choices you make in life.  They are:

STABILITY

The need to have control and predictability in life. Whether it is to follow a routine or to simply be in control of a situation, this is how you feel secure.        

VARIETY

Some say, “Variety is the spice of life.”  This need for change invites in excitement and adventure.

SIGNIFICANCE

The need to feel special, valued for your efforts and recognized as an individual of importance.

LOVE AND CONNECTION

The poet John Donne wrote, “no man is an island.’  Through bonding and communicating we find purpose and meaning in life.

GROWTH

That which does not grow withers away. We all need to broaden ourselves intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to really experience life.

CONTRIBUTION

Giving, caring, and serving others takes us outside ourselves.  Doing something for the greater good gives significance to life.

The key here is SELF AWARENESS. Remember, ALL of these are Basic Human Needs. The question for you is how to prioritize them.

WHEN FACED WITH A DECISION, consider the importance of each BASIC NEED (on a scale of 1-10) AS it RELATEs TO the SITUATION. BE honest with yourself.

For example, suppose you are a person who rates SIGNIFICANCE (10) and  GROWTH (9) highest in your life, and your job gives you none. You thought your paycheck was enough but the lack of recognition and little chance to advance  cause you a lot of stress. This realization may help you make the decision to look for another job where those needs are met.

If you really value VARIETY(9) and find yourself in a relationship that is too predictable (Wednesday night is pizza night), you can try to change it or move on.  Some people may just want the stability that a relationship brings. But can you be at your best without the spontaneity that  you really feel you need?

 Whether in business, relationships, or simply dealing within your community, considering these basic needs helps you understand what makes you choose what you choose.

Remember we are all different.  Once YOU recognize YOUR priorities, you will be more empowered in your choices.

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And, yes, you can put this list into your ‘Empowerment Toolbox!’

~ Loretta

Your Empowerment Toolbox – Visualization

Multiple Paths - Decision Making

Eenie, meenie, miney, moe – Every day we are faced with having to make choices.  How do you make yours?

Just when we think we have everything under control, things change, and you have to make smart choices. And to help you be prepared, I’m going to add another tool to your EMPOWERMENT toolbox!

VISUALIZATION

You can make the choice to be involved in your future by using Tool #2– VISUALIZATION. Yes, that’s right, looking into the future and picturing your life just how you would like it to be. And I’m talking details.

One of the best ways to visualize is to write down what you see in your mind’s eye.  Here’s how to do it:

STEP ONE: EVERY NIGHT

Every night before you go to sleep, take time to write a few sentences describing how you want your life to be.  It is your private journal, so be honest with yourself and be specific. This can include sentences like,  “I have more than enough money to pay my bills.”  “I’m a successful chef with a gourmet restaurant.”  “I give interesting presentations, and people ask my opinion.” “I’m a perfect weight and look really good in my clothes.”  (You are ‘inviting in’ positive energy and it will put a smile on your face as you go to sleep.)

STEP TWO: EVERY MORNING

Every morning, turn to a fresh page and write down things you feel you must clear out of your mind.  You can include thoughts like, “I don’t feel like getting up today.”  “I don’t like the people at work.” “I think I look fat.”  After you’ve released this negative energy, tear out the page and throw it away. That way even though you purged your mind of negative thoughts, the journal remains a positive visualization of your future.

  • Being clear to yourself about the life you really want directs your thoughts and energies towards those goals.
  • Writing your thoughts down gives you added focus.
  • The more you think about that life, the more it becomes a reality. You begin to believe that you can make it happen; you will feel EMPOWERED.
  • And as an extra bonus, visualizing your success and fulfillment will increase your motivation and boost your confidence.

So, enough with the eenie, meenie… Look in your toolbox and start using VISUALIZATION on your road to Empowering yourself.

Visualization

~ Loretta

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Your “EMPOWERING MYSELF” Toolbox

I’ve decided to give you a present – It’s an ‘Empowering Myself’ toolbox.

Over time, we will fill the toolbox with EMPOWERING ideas and techniques you can use to strengthen your outlook and your decision-making.  The first tool to add is:

BRAINSTORMING

Let’s face it, unlike when taking standardized tests where we are told that the first answer we choose is usually right, in life our first response is not always the right solution or the only possibility.  Sometimes we need to look at things from a variety of perspectives – before we decide on an action.

Brainstorming is a versatile tool that is not hard to use and will really help you make informed and well-thought-out choices.  You can brainstorm alone, or you can ask others (with appropriate insight) to help.

The BRAINSTORMING technique is simple and can be broken down into two easy steps.

Step One: Let Your Ideas Flow There are no wrong answers!

  • Take a large sheet of paper and a marker
  • Present the challenge
  • List every possible strategy or solution that comes to mind. Do not critique or comment on the suggestions.

This opens up all possibilities and frees your thinking

Step Two: Evaluate/Eliminate/Prioritize

In Step Two you (and others) can discuss each possible solution and either keep it on the list or eliminate it.   What’s left is a good selection of viable options,plus you’ve had the chance to think outside the box.

And that is how BRAINSTORMING is done.  Easy, right?

Here’s an example.

Challenge: You want to ask for a raise.

Step One – Let Your Ideas Flow

List all the possible strategies (remember, anything goes). You could:

  • Email the request
  • Call the boss and just ask
  • Make an appointment and ask in person
  • Find out the boss’s favorite restaurant and buy him/her a gift card
  • Make a file of your successes and drop it by his office
  • Prepare a salary chart for comparable jobs to show boss
  • Ingratiate yourself – offer your connections and lifestyle and knowledge to the boss hoping he will find you invaluable
  • Go over your boss’s head to talk to the CEO
  • Come up with new ideas and directions for the company to impress your boss so he will offer a raise
  • Skip the raise and opt for a promotion
  • And so forth.

Now,

Step Two: Evaluate/Eliminate/Prioritize

Here is your chance to praise or criticize and even laugh at what is on the list.  Obviously, some ideas are good and others just won’t work.  The point is that you have become empowered by broadening the possibilities and can now decide how you want to move forward.

BRAINSTORMING has an added bonus.  While empowering you to feel confident in your strategy, it also builds resilience.  If what you try does not work, you will bounce back quicker knowing you have considered a variety options.  You may even reevaluate the entire challenge.

BRAINSTORMING is just the first of your empowerment tools. Stay tuned for more ….

EmpowermentToolbox

Oh, and you may need to go buy a bigger toolbox.

– Loretta