Sometimes people just need a little help to shift from negative thinking to positive thinking. When your kids, friends or co-workers start complaining and being negative with ‘poor me,’ ideas, YOU can be the person who turns it all around.
Here’s an example from a recent morning … one of the women who work at the Membership Desk at the YMCA wasn’t busy when I checked in. She looked bored, so I smiled and engaged her in conversation:
Me: How’s your day going so far?
Her: Much better now that I’ve had my coffee and woken up.
Me: Did you have a late night?
Her: No. I’m just used to sleeping in now. I have to change that schedule when I begin teaching.
Me: When do you start?
Her: August 1st – that is sooo soon. Summer was way too short.
Me: It’s all in how you look at it. Try telling yourself, “Wow! There are
still two and ½ weeks left of summer. I have time to do some fun
things.” (I paused for a moment.) So, what are you going to do?
Her: (thinking) I don’t know. (Soon she starts talking fast.) I’ll go to the pool a lot; I’m doing a 5K ‘Run in the Dark’ next week; and I’ll work and make some extra money and go shopping.
(And she flashed a big smile with eyes shining in all directions.)
Why fight negative thoughts? First of all, positive people get more out of life; and secondly positive people are much more fun to be around, which in turn spreads positive feelings in all directions. They tend to be more energetic, try new things, and certainly enjoy life more.
Just remember that people are in charge of their own thoughts. Of course, there are times when you will have doubts and feel negative. That’s normal. The question is do you let yourself believe those thoughts or do you acknowledge the negative ones and then move on to replace them with a better outlook.
Here is an interesting infographic for you to consider. (By the way, an ‘infographic’ shows information and data graphically in a simple, clear and quick way.)
In my MAKE HAPPY A HABIT campaign, I shared how doing five simple things every day for 30 days can actually help you rewire your brain toward happiness. My Accomplish-Coaching Instagram @makehappyahabit has 30 days of daily encouragement to spread around. #makehappyahabit
Five Simple Steps to MAKE HAPPY A HABIT
1 – Practice Gratitude: First thing each morning say out loud three (3) things you are grateful for.
2 – Journaling: Before bedtime, write down one good thing that happened that day.
3 – Meditation: Spend 2-5 minutes listening to wordless music, focusing on either the music or your breathing.
4 – Exercise: Exercise at least 20 minutes a day. If you are short on time, this can be done in two 10-minute intervals.
5 – Be Kind: Perform a random act of kindness. Hold a door for someone; compliment the salesperson who helps you or surprise an old friend with a phone call or email.
Sometimes people just need a little help. Remember that when you start your day. Whether it’s your child, a friend or a co-worker, YOU be the person who helps shift a mood from negative to positive.
The great thing about your being the spark for others is that you’re also helping yourself. Negative thoughts get pushed aside, and suddenly you find yourself surrounded by positive people!
Now, doesn’t that sound nice?