As we turn the pages of the calendar to 2016 and look forward to the promise of a New Year and a clean slate, many of you have probably made New Year’s Resolutions. You have made promises to lose weight, eat healthier, save money, and be less stressed. This New Year my suggestion for you is to focus your attention on your RELATIONSHIPS.
You have a lot of relationships – family/friends/work partners/teachers/childcare providers, etc. Think about those people who are important in your life, and for 2016 put this at the top of your resolution list:
#1 – Nurture and strengthen my relationships
This suggestion does come with a warning. Often the route we choose for our resolutions takes the shape of a ‘quick fix.’ We want the magic diet pill, the shortcut, the just-leave-a-message. These are all fine to save us time and offer immediate gratification. But please remember:
There is no such thing as a ‘quick fix’
when it comes to RELATIONSHIPS.
Sure, the quick fix offers a short-term solution but just like grabbing a Cinnabon for lunch, the satisfaction rapidly wears off, and soon you’ll be hungry again, longing for something else.
The need to interact and form a true connection with others is one of the most basic human needs.
It requires nurturing and time. As a Personal Empowerment Coach, my goal is to help you set a real and doable New Year’s Resolution regarding Relationships.
Take this little quiz to see how you handle your relationships:
1 – When was the last time you gave the other person a compliment – out loud?
2 – What have you done lately that has surprised that person?
3 – How did you last show consideration towards him/her?
4 – When did you last do something just because you knew it would bring happiness to that other person?
Answer these questions honestly. Remember that you are having this discussion with yourself. Then keep these questions around for your reference.
If you find that your answers show you need to pay more attention to those special people in your life, you can make a plan to do so. If you find that you really are conscious and careful in dealing with these relationships, keep up the good work.
Whether you make a whole list of New Year’s Resolutions or just have this one, you are on your way to happier times. Trust me; the dividends are HUGE.