Are you in a ‘stuck’ mode? Just like a car stuck in the mud, you keep pressing the gas in the hopes that the car will magically sprout wings and fly up and out of the soft dirt.
But what happens? The tires keep spinning and the car doesn’t move. You know that there must be another way but maybe you’ll just keep trying one more time. So you step on the gas and get in deeper; and then you wonder why you are stuck.
Sometimes you are stuck in a relationship.
You know that the person is not really good for you or makes you feel depressed but you still keep calling and spending time together.
Sometimes it is a job.
You really don’t like the people you work with or what you do. You rationalize that it is a paycheck, so you have to stay put. Then you end up feel anxious all the time and never appreciated.
Sometimes it’s your dreams.
You have an idea for a new career or moving to a different city, or simply spending more time doing what you do well. What is stopping you from making your dreams a reality?
Here are three easy steps to
help you get out of stuck
- Tell yourself the truth about why you are stuck. Be honest and tell yourself why you stay in a place where the tires are spinning, and you don’t feel like you are ever making any forward progress.
- Ask yourself what you really WANT. Whether it involves your relationships, work, or dreams for the future, take time to think about what you really want – the who/what/when/where/why are all good questions to ask.
- Make a plan of action to move in the direction of success. You noticed I left out following the ‘how’ in the step above. That is because HOW deserves its own step. This would be a good time to look in your ‘Empowering Yourself Toolbox’ that I am developing for you. (See previous blogs). Use the tools, and come up with a plan of action – one step at a time – and get going.
Stop wasting time spinning your wheels. Get started moving towards what you really want.
Then you can change your clothes; they’re really muddy.
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