How do you make major decisions? Flip a coin? Use a Dartboard? Let the answer depend on whether you see three red cars (!) on the way to work?
One thing that will help you in making choices is to understand yourself better. Realizing what you really need in situations gives you support in your decisions..
Here is a list from best-selling author Tony Robbins of the Six Basic Human Needs that we all have. Regardless of the situation, how you value these needs will help direct the choices you make in life. They are:
The need to have control and predictability in life. Whether it is to follow a routine or to simply be in control of a situation, this is how you feel secure.
Some say, “Variety is the spice of life.” This need for change invites in excitement and adventure.
The need to feel special, valued for your efforts and recognized as an individual of importance.
LOVE AND CONNECTION
The poet John Donne wrote, “no man is an island.’ Through bonding and communicating we find purpose and meaning in life.
That which does not grow withers away. We all need to broaden ourselves intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually to really experience life.
Giving, caring, and serving others takes us outside ourselves. Doing something for the greater good gives significance to life.
The key here is SELF AWARENESS. Remember, ALL of these are Basic Human Needs. The question for you is how to prioritize them.
WHEN FACED WITH A DECISION, consider the importance of each BASIC NEED (on a scale of 1-10) AS it RELATEs TO the SITUATION. BE honest with yourself.
For example, suppose you are a person who rates SIGNIFICANCE (10) and GROWTH (9) highest in your life, and your job gives you none. You thought your paycheck was enough but the lack of recognition and little chance to advance cause you a lot of stress. This realization may help you make the decision to look for another job where those needs are met.
If you really value VARIETY(9) and find yourself in a relationship that is too predictable (Wednesday night is pizza night), you can try to change it or move on. Some people may just want the stability that a relationship brings. But can you be at your best without the spontaneity that you really feel you need?
Whether in business, relationships, or simply dealing within your community, considering these basic needs helps you understand what makes you choose what you choose.
Remember we are all different. Once YOU recognize YOUR priorities, you will be more empowered in your choices.
And, yes, you can put this list into your ‘Empowerment Toolbox!’