Are you listening?

Do you actually LISTEN when you have a conversation?  I mean, really listen?  Or do you only hear the first sentence from the other person and immediately begin thinking about what you want to say next? Example:

chatting

You: Hi, Jill, I haven’t seen you in a long time!

Her:  Hi! Well, I just got back from a big birthday trip to France.  Boy, we had so much fun – we celebrated birthdays, anniversaries, and even retirement! It was April in Paris!

You: We were in France last year.  We went to all the Michelin one-star restaurants because they were a good bargain for great food.  We even had a sunset dinner on a riverboat to watch the lights come on from the Seine!  It was just fabulous.

Her: Oh, that’s nice. (As Jill walks away, she is thinking; Well, I was going to say more about my trip but somehow it’s turned into ‘all-about-you’.).  See you some time.

Don’t be a turn-it-around-to-be-‘all-about-me’ person!

Ask a lot of questions – and let the person answer them.  You’ll sharpen your listening skills, and you’ll get to know someone a lot better.  As a bonus, you’ll find people will like you more for it.

And don’t worry – some day it really will be your turn to talk.

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